Funeral For A Friend / Love Lies Bleeding....
I have not been posting for a long time now... I have been both mentally disturbed and busy with many activities.....
Firstly... one of my friends died due to cancer. I attended his funeral. And many things became clear to me that day and i've been very disturbed mentally. Even though he was not a very close friend the impact it had on me was phenomenal. He was only 19 years old... Someone who had dreams and ambitions just like us... who wanted to enjoy life just like us... who wanted to grow old and experience all the good things in life.... Everything shattered....
The doctors diagnosed him with bone marrow cancer when we had our 12th std board examinations.... Like many others in school, i had no clue... only a few of his close friends knew... infact i dint know he even had cancer till he died...
There are many observations that i made in the funeral....
In any indian funeral, one may find the following kind of people....
1. Those people who are really overwhelmed with sorrow, like close relatives and friends who cry their heart out..
2.Those frail hearted ones who are actually crying bcos of fear having seen the dead body..
3.The indifferent ones like distant relatives and assholes who want coffee but dunno whom to ask....
4. People like me who are terribly upset but too strong hearted to cry...
5. People who console other who are crying... and then secretly hide somewhere and cry....
I realised that life is so uncertain... Extending on Werner Heisenberg's uncertainity principle - " Its impossible to predict the extent of ones life and the direction in which it would go at any given time"
Secondly... my mom always used to say, "Love a person who loves you"
I realised its true implications only recently.... It works like this :
If you are in love with someone and express it to them... and only after that that person actually falls in love with you, the probability that that person will love you as much as you love that person is very very low... and when that same person had fallen in love with someone else before and due to unfortunate reason had to break up, the probability that that person will not love you as much as that person used to love that other person whom that person fell in love before is phenomenal...
Now i am the person who fell in love and expressed and the person i am in love is that other person... I realised this fact almost 9 months into the relationship... and i have been quite depressed..It hurts even more when the people from her past keep resurfacing from time to time.......
Well... Thats all of my bragging as of now.... And SAVITHA... if your reading this, Miss u a lot... hope you are doing fine....
Firstly... one of my friends died due to cancer. I attended his funeral. And many things became clear to me that day and i've been very disturbed mentally. Even though he was not a very close friend the impact it had on me was phenomenal. He was only 19 years old... Someone who had dreams and ambitions just like us... who wanted to enjoy life just like us... who wanted to grow old and experience all the good things in life.... Everything shattered....
The doctors diagnosed him with bone marrow cancer when we had our 12th std board examinations.... Like many others in school, i had no clue... only a few of his close friends knew... infact i dint know he even had cancer till he died...
There are many observations that i made in the funeral....
In any indian funeral, one may find the following kind of people....
1. Those people who are really overwhelmed with sorrow, like close relatives and friends who cry their heart out..
2.Those frail hearted ones who are actually crying bcos of fear having seen the dead body..
3.The indifferent ones like distant relatives and assholes who want coffee but dunno whom to ask....
4. People like me who are terribly upset but too strong hearted to cry...
5. People who console other who are crying... and then secretly hide somewhere and cry....
I realised that life is so uncertain... Extending on Werner Heisenberg's uncertainity principle - " Its impossible to predict the extent of ones life and the direction in which it would go at any given time"
Secondly... my mom always used to say, "Love a person who loves you"
I realised its true implications only recently.... It works like this :
If you are in love with someone and express it to them... and only after that that person actually falls in love with you, the probability that that person will love you as much as you love that person is very very low... and when that same person had fallen in love with someone else before and due to unfortunate reason had to break up, the probability that that person will not love you as much as that person used to love that other person whom that person fell in love before is phenomenal...
Now i am the person who fell in love and expressed and the person i am in love is that other person... I realised this fact almost 9 months into the relationship... and i have been quite depressed..It hurts even more when the people from her past keep resurfacing from time to time.......
Well... Thats all of my bragging as of now.... And SAVITHA... if your reading this, Miss u a lot... hope you are doing fine....
posted by Kedhar at 9:57 PM
5 Comments:
Touchy dude...Really touchy...Wonder where you got the strength to withstand seeing your friend lying lifeless...
Firstly... one of my friends died due to cancer. I attended his funeral.
My Heart filled condolences.
love relation is many a times painful dude. so jus cheer up and keep things going...
Hope things work ok for you from now on.
Wow...Such an emotionally draining phase in life...I completely agree with the quotes you have incorporated here...I myself use it a couple of times...Love hurts,be it within your family,friend or someone else...but where there is no pain,there is no gain...
Things like these only heal with time...the best solution for all these would be to distract yourself and be optimistic...Hope everything goes fine soon...
btw,thanks for dropping by my blog...keep visiting :)
KD, I read ur write-up and am touched. I miss u immensely. Do let me know whats the reason for your depression. You know you can always count on me. :) Love, Savi
touching...! i realise the greatness of people like dr.shanta . ur observation of people at funerals are true and absolutely correct! overwhelmed by emotion.!
hmm...
my dear little one,
Love comes and love goes. We experience it many times over. We experience it twice, thrice, maybe even four times at once. Why? Because it is unpredictable, and is never the same.
She may never love you the same way she did another. But she was never the person she is now, then. It is a fact.
Someone once defined the "Great Love", the "True Love"...there is no such thing. Because we will forever be naming our next, or final, or past Lovers, as those above mentioned things...
This love, is yours. No one else can experience it. That is what you must realize. Not any of this "past" crap. You are in her heart now.
Those bastard (mind me language), will resurface a thousand times - they may want her back, and you will know why, because you are loving her, there is something there obviously to love.
Don't be afraid, don't over analyze. Let it be, just experience it. Communicate, the best thing. Be best friends, and love this Love, now. There will be no other like it.
Just remember it.
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